I often hear people talking about how confident people are usually successful and in all honesty I remember feeling myself that I had to be confident in order to do well in life.

It was like my suit of armour, I always appeared confident, even when I didn’t feel it - I felt I had to.

Now I see it so very differently:

‘the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something’

We choose what we believe to be true.

Just because we simply have a thought doesn’t make it truth and we can actually choose to not believe any of our thoughts!

What we are really talking about is belief due to thoughts we have had about ourselves, or someone else, so much so that we start to see it as fact. 

Why would we choose to believe thoughts that do not serve us or stop us from living life the way we want?

We would choose this because we innocently misunderstand the true nature of thought. 

We misunderstand that we are always in the feeling of our thoughts.

“Thought is not reality; yet it is through Thought that our realities are created.” Sydney Banks 

It comes form our expectations (again thought created) and whether we feel we are enough.

This has nothing to do with confidence and everything to do with being human.

The more we see we are enough, regardless of what our circumstances are, how much money we have in the bank, what job we had and so on, we will no longer be searching and more likely ‘being’ and in our lives.

That's where the magic happens.

So how do we know if we are truly confident or not?

We see that there is no such thing as a confident or not confident person, only the story they tell themselves which is creating feelings that then lead to behaviours that would make someone appear to be ‘not confident’.

Consider areas of your own life and where you would describe yourself as confident and then times you wouldn’t and reflect on... what's the difference?

Join me to explore this conversation on a deeper level on my next All About session: All About Confidence & Success on 15th May 2024. If you've missed it by the time you read this, a replay is available inside The Membership.